As countless couples are having to reschedule, reconfigure and reimagine their 2020 weddings, they’re getting a crash course in what marriage is all about in the first place: compromise. They’re gaining some hard-earned wisdom, too, all about what matters (love!) and what doesn’t (getting that exact date you wanted). Here, six brides share what they’ve learned from postponing their 2020 weddings. (Hint: In the end, it’s all worth the wait.)
“The perfect wedding changes dramatically after you postpone. If you can pull off a dance floor, a cocktail hour and an open bar, it’s a solid 10 out of 10.” —Amanda S., wedding originally scheduled for August 2020; rescheduled for July 2021.
“Friday weddings are great! We originally only wanted to get married on a Saturday, mostly so people didn’t have to take a day off of work to come to it. But with dates booking up, we decided to reschedule our wedding for a Friday night next year. Now we’re excited to have an entire weekend to spend with people we haven’t been able to see for a while. We’re planning on throwing a casual get-together on Saturday for people coming in from out of town or for anyone who still just wants to celebrate with us, and our guests are happy for a weekend getaway!” —Caitlin M., wedding originally scheduled for April 2020; rescheduled for April 2021.
“Time is so precious. Since we postponed our wedding, my uncle passed (not due to COVID) and my grandmother continues to experience stronger signs of dementia. With time slipping away, we eloped ahead of our postponed wedding. We still plan to have a ceremony and reception, pandemic permitting, in May 2021. Until then, we’re recapturing our time together and thrilled to be Mr. and Mrs. COVID can’t stop love.” Jennifer M., wedding originally scheduled for May 2020; eloped in October; reception rescheduled for May 2021.
“Postponing our wedding is allowing us the time to focus on us, instead of just wedding planning, which usually consumes most of your entire engagement. Plus, with all this time together, we’ve learned that we made the right decision to spend the rest of our lives together.” —Katie L., wedding originally scheduled for September 2020; rescheduled for September 2021.
“Those who love you will be there for you and your Big Day no matter what. You think everyone needs a big party and dancing and cocktails, but I have been blown away by the support and enthusiasm that I’ve received just for my Zoom wedding.” —Nicole S., wedding originally scheduled for July 2020; having a Zoom ceremony in December.
“I’ve learned that if you’re planning on spending the rest of your life with someone, waiting a year isn’t that bad.” —Alison G., wedding originally scheduled for July 2020; rescheduled for July 2021.